Editor's Note: Last Spring, Crosswalk ran a series of articles by Carolyn Mahaney and her daughters exploring the Biblical concept of modesty as it relates to spring and summer fashions. You can read the series here or visit their GirlTalk blog here. Now, as we enter the 2008 wedding season, Carolyn Mahaney discusses the importance of modesty for brides and their bridesmaids.
A few years ago, CJ and I had the privilege of going to The Bible Church of Little Rock where CJ spoke on the topic of modesty. At the conclusion of my husband’s sermon, the church’s worship pastor, Todd Murray, presented an additional appeal in his closing remarks. He urged all girls to consider modesty even when shopping for formal attire and wedding dresses. His words were laden with care and compassion, yet they carried an appropriate soberness. We felt Todd’s exhortation was too important to be heard only by the girls of his church, so we asked if we could post his words here. He graciously agreed. Let’s listen in and be challenged by one pastor’s heart and plea to the women of his church:
Ladies, please don’t forget to apply these principles of modesty to formal events and weddings. In recent years, I have become increasingly grieved by the immodest dresses of both brides and bridesmaids at the weddings that I officiate. I have observed a number of young ladies in our fellowship who have dressed modestly all their lives appearing on their wedding day in extremely provocative dresses, exposing more of themselves than on any other day of their lives.
I assume the best about what is going on in the hearts of these young women. I don’t think that they went to the wedding dress shop determined to be provocative. No doubt, they just wanted a dress that would be elegant on this day that they have dreamed of all their lives. When a bride and mother set out on their expedition to find a wedding dress, they are, quite naturally, thinking like… women! Unfortunately, there is no one in the shop who is thinking like a man! I’d like to make a radical proposal, girls. Why not take your father with you to the wedding boutique? If that thought is just too much for you (or your Dad!) at least consider taking the dress out on approval and allowing your dad to see it before you make your final purchase.
Here are a couple of questions to ask yourself when shopping for a wedding or bridesmaid’s dress:
1. Does this dress reflect the fact that a wedding ceremony is a holy service of worship and not a fashion show?
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Having three married daughters, I know the challenges involved in finding modest wedding attire. However, with a lot of time and effort, it can be done!
It is very hard to find a mosest wedding gown unless you:
make it yourself, or
order it online (assuming you don't already live in Utah) from a store catering to Mormons (the dresses are beautiful but you can't try them on beforehand!)
what is your counsel on this? brides today need extra help to be modest!